God Hates Abuse Programs

The robin symbolizes growth and rebirth of the spirit. Her red breast symbolizes the life force within. She is perfect for teaching us how to grow beyond where we are and move into a joyful life. Growth does not usually occur overnight; rather it is a slow, challenging process. It is discouraging when the desired results do not manifest immediately. Stick with it, however, and hold the happiness of the robin's song in your heart and mind. Approach life with an open heart, and all the growth and change you crave will come to you in time!


You are with your abuser and don’t know how to leave or if you even should. You want help to explore options and develop a plan for leaving safely and successfully. This is a crisis!

I will work with you privately to help you navigate the obstacles in front of you and develop a strategic plan. This is done free of charge for victims through God Hates Abuse Project. Contact me and let’s talk about what’s going on in your life and how I can help you move forward.


  • A free copy of my book God Hates Abuse.

  • Talk confidentially about anything that you want to talk about.

  • Resources and information to help you sort through options.

  • Clarity if you are questioning unhealthy aspects of your relationship. 

  • Help on differentiating the difference between the truly abusive relationship, and what is not abusive and worth trying to save.

  • Safety planning.

  • Collaboration with other helping organizations on your behalf.

  • How to help your kids or someone else you care about.

  • Help in developing an exit strategy.

  • Prayer and spiritual encouragement. If you are fearful of leaving an abusive relationship because you believe God condemns it, let’s talk through your worries and examine Scripture together so you can find peace.

  • Evaluating your Church and their role in what is happening.

  • ***If you are the wife of a religious or community leader and concerned about reaching out to community organizations because of your husband’s position, you may feel better talking to me first. Many leaders wives have and I guarantee confidentiality and privacy. What’s important is to talk to someone! Talking does not commit you to anything but will give you helpful information.


This program is focused on the precarious time right after you leave the relationship and are at risk of going back for lack of resources. Financial distress is the number one reason victims return to their abuser.

This time is critical for having a plan and accessing all resources available to help yourself and your children to stabilize. A customized plan will set you up for success in the interim between being Trapped and Thriving.

If you are in this phase, I can help you locate resources and develop a strategy. Contact me and tell me what you need the most right now.


You are established with a new abuse-free home and life, but know you aren’t living your best life yet. You are ready to identify your gifts and channel resources into creating the life of your dreams. Let’s talk about your future and how Butterfoot Life Coaching can help you get there successfully through private or group coaching.

I am a Toxic Relationship Resilience Life Coach and Butterfoot Life Coaching, LLC is how I not only continue to serve survivors of abuse, but I use the nominal coaching fee to support the expenses and time devoted to God Hates Abuse programs.

If you feel you have benefited from God Hates Abuse, donations are appreciated to be able to continue to help more victims for free and provide the book freely. Another helpful option is to pay for someone else to be coached in a program in the form of a scholarship. Butterfoot Life Coaching fees are not tax-deductible.